Foster care often doesn’t make sense to the ordinary person. The system’s complexities, trying to figure out what’s best for the parents and, importantly, what’s best for the children, can be overwhelming. Having worked in Child Protective Services (CPS), I always knew there was a pressing need for foster homes. From a young age, I envisioned a family where I could provide this care.
Navigating Special Needs
Our youngest foster child had some medical special needs, and the agency was a constant source of support. Whether it was lending a listening ear or guiding us through the necessary appointments, they were always there. When Kalini came into our lives as a newborn, she was born cocaine-dependent and experienced tremors. We navigated through these challenges, and I’m proud to say she is now thriving.
Kalini is not the only child who brings unique challenges. My daughter, whom I adopted, has ADHD and ADD, combined with a history of being meth-positive at birth. Similarly, our newly adopted son is on the fetal alcohol spectrum and has significant trauma responses. The agency helped us navigate the resource systems and provided the necessary treatment referrals.
Forming a Forever Family
My immediate family now includes my daughter Kalani, who has been with me her entire life. Adopting her has been an incredible blessing; she needed me, and I needed her, though I didn’t realize it at first. Being a foster and adoptive parent has brought immense fulfillment to my life.
The Bigger Picture: The Impact of Foster Care
Foster care isn’t just about giving children a temporary home; it’s about shaping our future. The children we nurture today will be decision-makers tomorrow. Our future looks uncertain if we don’t create a sense of wholeness now.
Encouraging Future Foster Parents
To anyone considering fostering, yes, you will become attached to these children, and that’s precisely what they need—love and support. It’s the most rewarding thing we’ve ever done. If you feel called to foster or adopt, don’t wait; there’s no perfect time.
Helping Kids Unpack Their Suitcases
Adopting or fostering isn’t the same as having biological children. These kids come with emotional baggage, and it’s our job to help them unpack and reorganize it. Leap if you can provide a loving, safe home and robust support system. These kids need it.
Conclusion
Providing a loving and nurturing home through foster care is a life-changing experience for the children and the foster parents. It’s a journey filled with challenges and immense rewards as you see these children thrive and grow. If you feel the call to foster, embrace it—you may be the difference in a child’s life.
